Arlene M. Sitterly

Mrs. Sitterly

Arlene M. Sitterly passed on June 28, 2019. She was a graduate of JHS ‘41, had a host of professional real estate designations, lived a dynamic 95 years and was a positive influence on all she touched.

She was the daughter of Clayton and Ethel Johns (aka Ethel VanAntwerp and Ethel Kruger) and was predeceased by her husband, Orville “Bud” Sitterly and her first born son, Burnell. She is survived by her children, Sandrea (Brian) Mee, Clayton (Jane) Sitterly and Sharla Wager and family friend, Sheila Degnan. Her life’s focus was her grandchildren, Troy (Blanca) Mosconi, Tara (Gregg) Martello, Kate (Keith) Abete, Quinn (Jon) Swartout, Dallas Wager (Jim Gurga), Kylie (Skyler) Cruz, Connor (Chelsea) Wager; and great-grandchildren, Brady, Skylar, Trey, Brinn, Dominic, Jonny, Steven, Logan and Luka. Also surviving are cousin, Patricia Viola; many nieces, nephews and very dear, lifelong friends including Norma, Iva, Marie, Annie, Shirley, Debbie, Sandy, Alberta, Dale, MaryAnn, Lisa, Tricia, Ruthie, Karen, Leslie and so many others who stood by her during her recent illness.

Arlene was a business woman of legendary stature, high integrity and a master of many tasks. In spite of her professional firsts, NYS honors and awards, she remained humble and gracious. In fact, she insisted that we promise not to list the cornucopia of her past accomplishments. Suffice it to say, she embraced her profession as she did her community, her social interests, her church, her political affiliation and her family — she was always “all in.”

She left everyone she touched with a little something that she epitomized every day — kindness, generosity, faith, courage and conviction. If you found yourself on the opposite side of an issue, she, like a grindstone, would work firmly yet benevolently until she wore you down and won you over. As a boss, she was a task master — never easy yet always genuine and fair.

She will be cremated and her remains placed in a columbarium alongside her husband “Bud” at St. John’s Church. To accommodate the out of state family members, a celebration of her life will be held at St. John’s Church at a date to be announced later.

Our family would like to thank Mother Laurie of St. John’s Church, the medical staff at Nathan Littauer Hospital third floor, ICU, and the nursing home. Special thanks to Mountain Valley Hospice for their recent care and kindness and in particular, thanks to Doctors Shah and Holmes for their years of health care and guidance.

In lieu of flowers, memorials can be made to any of the above including the Lexington Foundation or a charity of one’s choice. In honor, one could (as she often did) also pass along a random act of kindness to someone in need. Online condolences can be made at

By Patricia Older

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